Unsurmountable or insurmountable1/3/2024 Could you do this if you had help? Who can you ask for help?Ģ0. If a friend came to you with this problem, would you reassure that person that he or she could get past this, and how would you envision that happening?ġ9. Have other people overcome similar challenges, and can you learn anything about what they did?ġ8. Have you successfully addressed similar problems in the past?ġ7. It might be hard right now to see how you will get past this, but first you have to believe you can. Can you make some time for deep breathing, meditation, or yoga to create some mental stillness? Realizing It’s Not Insurmountable If you’re feeling guilty, can you express your remorse and begin forgiving yourself-and if not, what would it take to do that?ġ5. If you’re feeling defeated, can you see this is a test of your strength and impress yourself by rising to the occasion?ġ4. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, can you break the problem into smaller, more manageable parts?ġ3. If you’re getting caught up in “what if” scenarios, can you remember other times when you imagined all the horrible things that could happen and none of them did?ġ2. Hard to focus because you’re freaking out? Step back, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:ġ1. If the worst that could possibly happen happened, could you get through it, and maybe even benefit in some way? Addressing Your Emotions How much of your stress comes from the problem itself, and how much of it has to do with how (and how often) you’re thinking about it?ġ0. How many areas does this one problem impact?ĩ. Think about the major areas of your life-work, family, and hobbies, for example. Will this issue be relevant to you in one year? One month? One week?Ĩ. On a scale of one to ten-ten being the biggest hardship you’ve ever faced in your life-where does this problem fall?ħ. Are you blaming someone else in a way that limits the action you can take? Putting Things in PerspectiveĪre you overwhelmed because this seems like the worst thing that ever happened to you? Take a time out and ask yourself:Ħ. Are you waiting for someone else to step in and fix things for you?ĥ. Does a part of you want to hold onto the problem, maybe because it feels familiar or because there’s some pay off in keeping things as they are?Ĥ. Are you doing anything now that might be making things worse?ģ. Did you play any part in creating this problem?Ģ. When you acknowledge and accept a problem, and take responsibility for it, you then have the power to solve it. These questions may help you change your thinking about this problem and discover the action steps to solve it. If your current challenge seems insurmountable, it might help you to step back and try to see things differently. We can only create and follow a plan if we believe it’s possible. There isn’t- if we aren’t open to discovering it. When we’re knee-deep in the messiness of an obstacle, it can feel like there’s no way around it. I know that if the problem comes back, I can overcome it. And though I know my fibroids can grow back at any time, regardless of what I do, I’m prepared to handle that if and when it happens. Now, three months post-surgery, I’m healthier and more energized. It may have taken several months, but eventually, I made my way to the other side of that challenge. I needed to find a good doctor, pick the best treatment, and find the money to pay for my part of the surgery. But there was one-and it was far simpler than I realized at first.Īs soon as I focused and stopped getting caught up in “should haves” and “what ifs,” I started researching insurance plans and found one for people with pre-existing conditions. Overpowered as I was with fears and regrets, it felt nearly impossible to identify a solution. I wondered: Why did I develop those growths in the first place? What if they grew uncomfortably large before I was able to remove them? And what if I had other undiagnosed conditions? On top of that, I worried about my health. Since I didn’t have health insurance at the time, I feared I wouldn’t be able to afford treatment, and I was tempted to beat myself up for allowing myself to be uninsured. I remember when I first learned about my fibroids last year. When you’re buried in debt or trying to bounce back from a huge error in judgment, it can feel like there’s no way out. Some problems seem far too overwhelming to solve. With a little courage, teamwork, and determination, a person can do anything.” ~Unknown
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